Assurance

There is this feeling that accompanies re-validation or simply assurance of ones worth and value.

In relationships and also in simple friendships, this vibe of re-validation serves basically as a morale boost and without its constant practice, the onset of low self-worth begins to creep in, and we don't want that, do we?

In marriage, it is also important that you constantly remind him or her how much they mean to you and how much of a value they have added to your life. This is not some mantra or stereotypical thing but due to the fact that we are humans, this is one thing that makes us human too!

It is true that you actually hold them in high esteem but it doesn't have to end in knowing, it should also be expressed in not just actions but in words also. Words hold a powerful control over the mind and can be used to both sedate or inflict terrible emotional wounds. So, when next he/she comes to you with such concerns, don't treat it as something hilarious and unnecessary because it actually is necessary!

Today, go out on your way to send a text or make a call or whatever to that friend, spouse, lover: "Hey, this is just to remind you how much you mean to me. You've been a huge blessing and I appreciate your being in my life. I love you!" (this is just a sample) And watch as they beam with joy from within their soul. 

This is another way to lighten someone's life's problems, by reminding them that there is at least something or someone they've had a huge positive influence on and someone who NEEDS them in their life.

The feeling of importance is not so bad after-all, we humans need occasional ego boost to keep the fire burning. Imagine a cold forest at night and imagine when a tree in such cold starts to burn in flames! The whole atmosphere becomes enchanting! Be an enchanter.